what makes ready for him today different?
This is probably the most frequently asked question from those who hear about READY FOR HIM TODAY for the first time. People want to know: What sets READY FOR HIM TODAY apart from trending reads like:
When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy
Preparing to Be His Helpmeet by Debbi Pearl
Lady in Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right by Jackie Kendall
I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris
Please bear in mind that I have great respect for those who have "gone before me," and therefore do not wish in any way to diminish, downplay, or replace the messages of these other godly authors. They are not my competition; they are my brothers and sisters in Christ. I simply wish to point out the unique qualities of my message. READY FOR HIM TODAY is different because it not only establishes a mindset, but explains specific details, it includes the bulk of relevant information on the popular marriage/singleness topics, it discusses topics that have not yet (to my knowledge) been addressed, and it comes from the perspective of someone who is still walking out the single lifestyle.
When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy
Preparing to Be His Helpmeet by Debbi Pearl
Lady in Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right by Jackie Kendall
I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris
Please bear in mind that I have great respect for those who have "gone before me," and therefore do not wish in any way to diminish, downplay, or replace the messages of these other godly authors. They are not my competition; they are my brothers and sisters in Christ. I simply wish to point out the unique qualities of my message. READY FOR HIM TODAY is different because it not only establishes a mindset, but explains specific details, it includes the bulk of relevant information on the popular marriage/singleness topics, it discusses topics that have not yet (to my knowledge) been addressed, and it comes from the perspective of someone who is still walking out the single lifestyle.
intensely practical
Most of the books in the market are focused on the mindset: how to align our thinking with God's truth, as revealed in His Word. This is extremely valuable information. However, at times when I read those books, I felt frustrated that the clarity of the idea suddenly became difficult to see when I faced real-life situations. The ideal and the real seemed to clash constantly. All my questions came down to one main challenge: How do I make this mindset practical?
This is what I try to answer in READY FOR HIM TODAY. I go beyond the mindset, to the every-day decision-making process. For example, purity is great, but how does one practice purity daily? What choices and plans make purity not only an ideal, but a reality? My goal was to make the information intensely practical.
Obviously, because of differences in family convictions and interpretations of the Bible, I could not give absolute specifics, but I could lay out guidelines for developing workable strategies. I feel that READY FOR HIM TODAY provides a good basis for putting the mindset into practice.
This is what I try to answer in READY FOR HIM TODAY. I go beyond the mindset, to the every-day decision-making process. For example, purity is great, but how does one practice purity daily? What choices and plans make purity not only an ideal, but a reality? My goal was to make the information intensely practical.
Obviously, because of differences in family convictions and interpretations of the Bible, I could not give absolute specifics, but I could lay out guidelines for developing workable strategies. I feel that READY FOR HIM TODAY provides a good basis for putting the mindset into practice.
all in one place
READY FOR HIM TODAY both condenses and expands upon concepts that are explored across a dozen different books. If you want to study relationship development specifically, I highly recommend WHEN GOD WRITES YOUR LOVE STORY (Eric and Leslie Ludy).
If you want to study marriage preparation during singleness, I suggest LADY IN WAITING: BECOMING GOD'S BEST WHILE WAITING FOR MR. RIGHT (Jackie Kendall).
If you want to study the consequences of casual sex, I would point you to HOOKED: NEW SCIENCE ON HOW CASUAL SEX IS AFFECTING OUR CHILDREN (Joe McIlhaney and Freda McKissic Bush) and EPIDEMIC: HOW TEEN SEX IS KILLING OUR KIDS (Meg Meeker).
If you want to study singleness specifically, I would recommend SINGLED OUT FOR HIM (Nancy Leigh DeMoss). But if you want it all in one package--relationship development, marriage preparation, singleness, purity--I'd suggest READY FOR HIM TODAY. I have incorporated the bulk of the relevant information on all of these topics, plus specific stories and ideas to help flesh out the concepts.
If you want to study marriage preparation during singleness, I suggest LADY IN WAITING: BECOMING GOD'S BEST WHILE WAITING FOR MR. RIGHT (Jackie Kendall).
If you want to study the consequences of casual sex, I would point you to HOOKED: NEW SCIENCE ON HOW CASUAL SEX IS AFFECTING OUR CHILDREN (Joe McIlhaney and Freda McKissic Bush) and EPIDEMIC: HOW TEEN SEX IS KILLING OUR KIDS (Meg Meeker).
If you want to study singleness specifically, I would recommend SINGLED OUT FOR HIM (Nancy Leigh DeMoss). But if you want it all in one package--relationship development, marriage preparation, singleness, purity--I'd suggest READY FOR HIM TODAY. I have incorporated the bulk of the relevant information on all of these topics, plus specific stories and ideas to help flesh out the concepts.
topics that you won't find in other books
READY FOR HIM TODAY includes discussion on topics that I have seen very few other authors mention, never mind discuss at length. Nowhere have I encountered the fear of the Lord being cited as the basis for the family structure and particularly for a woman's relationship with her authority figure (father if single, husband if married).
While occasional periodicals may include articles on these topics, no books that I have read thus far have specifically pin-pointed and discussed the dangers of romance novels, the potential problems with online matchmaking, specific ways for a woman to combat sexual temptation and sin, particular ways in which singles are tormented with feelings of inferiority and worthlessness (with ways to combat those lies), and other such topics.
While occasional periodicals may include articles on these topics, no books that I have read thus far have specifically pin-pointed and discussed the dangers of romance novels, the potential problems with online matchmaking, specific ways for a woman to combat sexual temptation and sin, particular ways in which singles are tormented with feelings of inferiority and worthlessness (with ways to combat those lies), and other such topics.
personal experience
READY FOR HIM TODAY was written through both the joys and pain of personal experience as a single woman. I am not a married woman looking back at the big picture, nor a single woman with high school only a year or two behind me. My unmarried or unattached friends could be counted on one hand (and their number is swiftly diminishing), and I am well into post-college life. I am not even one of those women who could take marriage or leave it; I truly desire to be married.
The single adult life--and all of its accompanying emotions--is not a theory or a past stage of life for me, but a present reality. My story does not end with a "happily-ever-after" nuptial story, but with a testimony of God's work in my life. For the reader who seeks for a frank discussion on both the beautiful and the difficult realities of singleness, READY FOR HIM TODAY offers that discussion.
The single adult life--and all of its accompanying emotions--is not a theory or a past stage of life for me, but a present reality. My story does not end with a "happily-ever-after" nuptial story, but with a testimony of God's work in my life. For the reader who seeks for a frank discussion on both the beautiful and the difficult realities of singleness, READY FOR HIM TODAY offers that discussion.
summary
Does READY FOR HIM TODAY include all of the information that could be included? Have I exhausted topics like modesty, the vision of a single adult life, and common traps women fall into? No. I've touched on those topics and "cut to the chase," but there's much more that can be said. However, that would take a much longer book.
Or another book. And that's where you come in. If you have unanswered questions or would like a more in-depth discussion on a topic after reading READY FOR HIM TODAY, send me an e-mail from my Contact Me page. The next step is about to begin!
Or another book. And that's where you come in. If you have unanswered questions or would like a more in-depth discussion on a topic after reading READY FOR HIM TODAY, send me an e-mail from my Contact Me page. The next step is about to begin!