table of contents
ready for him todayIntroduction
RELATIONSHIPS AND AUTHORITY
1. The True Definition of Love
The Love Chapter - Love God - Love Others - Love Your Enemies - Love: An Attitude and an Action - The Sacrifice of Love
2. Authority in Relationships
The Purpose of the Fear of the Lord - Fear and Love - The Benefits of Fearing the Lord - The Fear of Authority - An Unmarried Daughter - A Married Woman
3. Future Relationships Start Today
The Impact of the Father-Daughter Relationship - Show Your SMARTS
PURITY
4. Marriage
What is Marriage? - What is Marriage For?
5. What is Purity?
Purity Honors Marriage--Before You're Even Married - Purity Does Not End When We Marry - Purity is a Continual Decision-Making Process
6. Why Does Purity Matter?
Purity Protects Our Bodies - Purity Protects Our Children - Purity Protects Our Emotions - Purity Protects Us From Regrets - Purity Protects the Specialness of Marriage - Purity Helps a Marriage to Last - Purity Honors Our Heavenly Marriage
7. So Where Do We Draw the Line?
A Matter of the Heart - The Power of Physical Contact - Boundaries - Sneaky Attraction - What if I know he's the one? - Parental Parameters
8. Commitment to Purity
The Purity Movement and Its Results - Purity Vows - Emotional Purity Vows - Keeper of the Commitment
9. The War Against Purity
Defining Temptation - Understanding Temptation - Why Jesus Understands Temptation - Jesus: Our Example in Temptation - You Are Not Alone - The Cycle - One of the Hardest Things You Will Ever Do
10. Common Sources of Temptation
Internal Desires - Peer Pressure - Peer Envy - Images - Music & Poetry - Dreams - Discontentment - Nighttime/Tiredness - Being Alone/Boredom - Stress/Frustration - Unhealthy Diet - Improper Exercise Habits - Summary
11. Resisting Temptation
Focus on Christ - Focus on True Love - Pray - Read the Bible - Use Distraction - Serve Others - Don't Compromise - Be Accountable
12. Dealing with Sin
Recognize and Hate the Sin - Guilt v. Repentance - The Key to Repentance - Strangle the Sin - Fight to Win - Respond to Temptation with Praise
REALISTIC LOVE
13. Recognizing True Love
True Love v. False Love - Recognizing Love
14. Some Dangers of Romance Stories
Six Dangers of Romance - Christian Romance - Sugar-Coated Lies?
15. Realistic Relationships
Expectation #1: Marriage is an escape hatch. - Expectation #2: Marriage will fulfill all our desires. - Expectation #3: Marriage will meet our ideals. - Expectation #4: Marriage will stay the same over time. - Expectation #5: Bad things happen to other people. - Radical Women
DEVELOPING A RELATIONSHIP
16. Appropriate Relationships
Crushes: Obsession - What He Does, What She Interprets - Crushes: Panic - Emotional Balance
17. Considering a Match Wisely
Knowing God's Will - What About Online Matchmaking? - Single and Looking
18. Qualities of a Potential Husband
He Must Know and Love Christ - Agree on Your Biblical Roles - Agree About Children - Agree on Important Specific Doctrinal Beliefs - Consider Your Preferences - Find a Friend - The Commitment - Compatibility
19. Candidate Checklist
What is his walk with God like? - How does he treat his parents, particularly his mother? - How does he treat his siblings, particularly his sisters? - How does he respond to family? - Is he preparing for his future responsibly? - What do your parents think of him? - How does he deal with stress? - What is his work ethic? - Is he responsible with his resources? - What kind of friends does he have? - How does he take care of his body?
20. Personal Checklist
Are you prepared for Jesus' return? - Are you prepared to be the best wife possible? - What does your speech say about you? - What does your clothing say about you? - What does your use of time say about you? - What do your relationships say about you?
21. How to Pray for a Husband
God Gives Good Gifts - Pray with Persistence - Pray with Heartfelt Sincerity - Pray with Respect - Pray with Gratitude - Pray with Right Motives - Pray for Your Future Husband
SINGLE AND CONTENT
22. The Truth About Singleness
Truth #1: Marriage is not for everyone. - Truth #2: Marriage both gives and takes. - Truth #3: God comes first, whether we marry or stay single.
23. The War Against Singleness
Pressures from Society - Our Fears and Pressures from Ourselves - Fear That Something is Wrong with Us - Fear of Being Left Behind - Standing Alone
24. Living in Contentment
What is Contentment? - Stay Busy - Learning Surrender - My Surrender - Content--and Still Praying
25. Worthwhile Singleness
Develop Solid Relationships - Learn Life-Long Skills - Further Your Education - Develop Marketable Skills - Participate in a Ministry - Care For Yourself - Worth More Than Rubies - The Fruit of Responsible Singleness
26. Real Stories
My Sister's Story: God's Yes - My Story: My Yes
RELATIONSHIPS AND AUTHORITY
1. The True Definition of Love
The Love Chapter - Love God - Love Others - Love Your Enemies - Love: An Attitude and an Action - The Sacrifice of Love
2. Authority in Relationships
The Purpose of the Fear of the Lord - Fear and Love - The Benefits of Fearing the Lord - The Fear of Authority - An Unmarried Daughter - A Married Woman
3. Future Relationships Start Today
The Impact of the Father-Daughter Relationship - Show Your SMARTS
PURITY
4. Marriage
What is Marriage? - What is Marriage For?
5. What is Purity?
Purity Honors Marriage--Before You're Even Married - Purity Does Not End When We Marry - Purity is a Continual Decision-Making Process
6. Why Does Purity Matter?
Purity Protects Our Bodies - Purity Protects Our Children - Purity Protects Our Emotions - Purity Protects Us From Regrets - Purity Protects the Specialness of Marriage - Purity Helps a Marriage to Last - Purity Honors Our Heavenly Marriage
7. So Where Do We Draw the Line?
A Matter of the Heart - The Power of Physical Contact - Boundaries - Sneaky Attraction - What if I know he's the one? - Parental Parameters
8. Commitment to Purity
The Purity Movement and Its Results - Purity Vows - Emotional Purity Vows - Keeper of the Commitment
9. The War Against Purity
Defining Temptation - Understanding Temptation - Why Jesus Understands Temptation - Jesus: Our Example in Temptation - You Are Not Alone - The Cycle - One of the Hardest Things You Will Ever Do
10. Common Sources of Temptation
Internal Desires - Peer Pressure - Peer Envy - Images - Music & Poetry - Dreams - Discontentment - Nighttime/Tiredness - Being Alone/Boredom - Stress/Frustration - Unhealthy Diet - Improper Exercise Habits - Summary
11. Resisting Temptation
Focus on Christ - Focus on True Love - Pray - Read the Bible - Use Distraction - Serve Others - Don't Compromise - Be Accountable
12. Dealing with Sin
Recognize and Hate the Sin - Guilt v. Repentance - The Key to Repentance - Strangle the Sin - Fight to Win - Respond to Temptation with Praise
REALISTIC LOVE
13. Recognizing True Love
True Love v. False Love - Recognizing Love
14. Some Dangers of Romance Stories
Six Dangers of Romance - Christian Romance - Sugar-Coated Lies?
15. Realistic Relationships
Expectation #1: Marriage is an escape hatch. - Expectation #2: Marriage will fulfill all our desires. - Expectation #3: Marriage will meet our ideals. - Expectation #4: Marriage will stay the same over time. - Expectation #5: Bad things happen to other people. - Radical Women
DEVELOPING A RELATIONSHIP
16. Appropriate Relationships
Crushes: Obsession - What He Does, What She Interprets - Crushes: Panic - Emotional Balance
17. Considering a Match Wisely
Knowing God's Will - What About Online Matchmaking? - Single and Looking
18. Qualities of a Potential Husband
He Must Know and Love Christ - Agree on Your Biblical Roles - Agree About Children - Agree on Important Specific Doctrinal Beliefs - Consider Your Preferences - Find a Friend - The Commitment - Compatibility
19. Candidate Checklist
What is his walk with God like? - How does he treat his parents, particularly his mother? - How does he treat his siblings, particularly his sisters? - How does he respond to family? - Is he preparing for his future responsibly? - What do your parents think of him? - How does he deal with stress? - What is his work ethic? - Is he responsible with his resources? - What kind of friends does he have? - How does he take care of his body?
20. Personal Checklist
Are you prepared for Jesus' return? - Are you prepared to be the best wife possible? - What does your speech say about you? - What does your clothing say about you? - What does your use of time say about you? - What do your relationships say about you?
21. How to Pray for a Husband
God Gives Good Gifts - Pray with Persistence - Pray with Heartfelt Sincerity - Pray with Respect - Pray with Gratitude - Pray with Right Motives - Pray for Your Future Husband
SINGLE AND CONTENT
22. The Truth About Singleness
Truth #1: Marriage is not for everyone. - Truth #2: Marriage both gives and takes. - Truth #3: God comes first, whether we marry or stay single.
23. The War Against Singleness
Pressures from Society - Our Fears and Pressures from Ourselves - Fear That Something is Wrong with Us - Fear of Being Left Behind - Standing Alone
24. Living in Contentment
What is Contentment? - Stay Busy - Learning Surrender - My Surrender - Content--and Still Praying
25. Worthwhile Singleness
Develop Solid Relationships - Learn Life-Long Skills - Further Your Education - Develop Marketable Skills - Participate in a Ministry - Care For Yourself - Worth More Than Rubies - The Fruit of Responsible Singleness
26. Real Stories
My Sister's Story: God's Yes - My Story: My Yes